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relationships are confusing

3rd July 2015 | 0 Comments

I’ve been trying to write a piece on relationship types for a few weeks now, in order to discover what I ultimately want in my next long term coupling. And I’m finding I just can’t do it, I always end up writing myself into a corner, at a complete loss of what is right or […]


The Lesson

21st April 2015 | 0 Comments

I know my lesson now, why she came into my life, why I loved her, why I needed to know her and to go through this experience. One of the most powerful, and difficult lessons to learn I believe. Something that I still need to work on, something that will take time and practice, something […]


Catalysts and gratitude and closure

20th April 2015 | 0 Comments

There’s an old adage which goes something like: Each person that comes into your life does so for a reason, either you will change them, or they will change you. It all sounds lovely and pretty and spiritual, but when it comes down to reality, there can be a lot of pain involved in this […]


Cyclical Meanderings …. part 9….. moving on

1st March 2015 | 0 Comments

Almost every day I sit down to write, half thoughts come out, I start examining something in one direction and my mind twists it around, usually to something self judgmental. So I stop Flush the piece Try again the next day…. Never sure what I want to focus on I read things I wrote the […]


a funny thing happened yesterday….

15th February 2015 | 0 Comments

So after a friends birthday dinner last night we all headed to this dance club / bar (never been to these types of places so I don’t even know how to categorize it) to have a few and do some dancing. It was 90’s night that night, so even though it wasn’t my type of […]


Yet Again….

9th February 2015 | 6 Comments

So it happened, we broke up. I guess it was my choice ultimately, in that I could never be happy without resentment or a feeling of always competeing for time in the world that was offered to me, yet she was the one with the strength to say the final words. I could only agree. […]


What it feels like dating as a trans person

23rd January 2015 | 2 Comments

There is this club, it’s huge, it’s ridiculously huge, and pretty much everyone you know enjoys going there. Some go occasionally, some go often and make it a big part of their lives. Did I say how huge it is?, we’re talking multiple Olympic installations here, it would probably take you a couple hours to […]


Cyclical meanderings….. part 8….. Dating

12th December 2014 | 0 Comments

As I happen to be in a poly relationship, in love with a woman who is legally married, of course the idea of dating other people is on my mind. Furthermore, this is something that my girlfriend is actively encouraging me to do, I’m still not very comfortable with the whole concept of poly, and […]


Strength….. part 2

28th October 2014 | 0 Comments

Not really a followup to the last post entitled “Strength”, but that’s what this is all about ——————————————————————————————————– Mara says that I’m the strongest person she knows, and that is a big part of her love for me I don’t often feel that I’m very strong, I’m me not because I feel strong, but because […]


houses and rings……

24th October 2014 | 0 Comments

Kind of a followup, a part 2, to two other unrelated posts. Please note this occurred last weekend, before my anxiety shitfest —————————————————————————————————— It happened, I’m still unsure as to why, I’ve been trying to process it but my mind often wanders off in over analysis, twisty paths, and I forget the point of what […]